- Posted by Janet Zaretsky
- On May 2, 2017
- 1 Comments
I finished the first draft of my book. I have talked about writing a book for years. I have been told I should write a book repeatedly. I always meant to get around to it. What shifted and had me write it in 6 months? My promise. I promised my coach I would complete it by a certain date and I did. I scheduled it, I honored my schedule. Simple.
Word. Giving my word to something, and then honoring what I said by having my actions consistent with what I promised is powerful. Here is the thing- you want to produce high level results, you must make powerful promises and then honor them. Frankly, most people are lousy at that. Mostly what I observe is people make promises and if circumstances line up, they fulfill them, but they are perfectly willing to not keep their promises if circumstances get in the way.
I know some people may get upset about this, but if you want to have real power and produce high level results, you really want to lean in to what I am saying here. Gaining real power with your word is the one thing you can do that will skyrocket your power and results. I have been doing this and coaching this principle for years with consistent results. The part of this that gets people is when I say you (if the shoe fits.) give circumstances your power, you let circumstances be bigger than your word and as long as you do that, you will not maximize your results. Sit with that, digest it, try it on, see if you can allow yourself to admit that.
Circumstances are anything that you say after the word, but (or because) … like I would have been on time, but there was traffic OR I would have done that, but I did not feel well, or had an emergency or fill in the blank. After the word ‘but” or ‘because’ is simply the excuse or explanation. What you are essentially saying is “I am not very powerful”. “Traffic is more powerful than me. I only do what I say when I feel like it.” What would have been more powerful is to say, I was late because I did not plan well or because I did not think it was important enough to give myself extra time for potential traffic delays. You would still be late, but you would be more straightforward and honest. Face it, when you have to explain why you don’t do what you say, you don’t experience being powerful.
I am going to suggest you try out something radical. For a month, pay attention to what you promise and then honor that promise. What that looks like is you take action that is highly likely to let you keep that promise. For example, if I promise to do something, I schedule it in my calendar, right away. If what I promised to do is going to take some time, I schedule that working time in my calendar. Then I honor what is in my calendar. If you are promising to meet a goal, as another example, you must figure out what it will take to meet that goal and then schedule the activities that are required. Then, execute the activities. If you don’t do it, try not using excuses, but simply be honest about it. Interestingly enough, when I talk to my clients about this, and they tell me someone did not keep their promises, I ask them if they care about why- universally they say “NO”, but we indulge and encourage people to keep explaining themselves. Live by this rule: a promise broken plus a good excuse is still a promise broken. Try keeping your promises and watch your results skyrocket!